Agreeing not to say no
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Tajamul
By Tajamul
Published on 03/27/2009
saying no is not an easy thing. cost of disagreement is very high and therefore sure winners do not disagree. they agree not to say no
Agreeing not to say no - Page 3 of 3
As the system itself is the best clue to peer into, the 'sure winners' understand how things really work, who is 'hot' and who is 'not' and where the gang planks and backdoors are. They make peace with themselves and agree to tackle a position of careful cowardice as members of the system. Basking in the sunshine of their master's presence assures them of the reflected glory, authority and so on. Success, status, advancement and money are too valuable to be risked before those who make judgements. Rather than place all of these symbols in jeopardy these men make compromises which they think are required to hang on. Perhaps because the servant is commonly regarded as something that can be sold, in the master-servant/superior-subordinate relationship, the self contempt tends to be an essential ingredient to the extent that people don't mind getting treated disrespectfully. As the virtues of a free person are not to be found in them it is unfair to twit them with the absence of such virtues. Insults and humiliations meted out mould the characters of the people. For sheer survival and to be the 'sure winners' in a situation of loot, plunder as also anarchy toads learn to be crafty for making use of lie, selfishness and various forms of deceit/subterfuge.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.
Agreeing not to say no - Page 3 of 3
As the system itself is the best clue to peer into, the 'sure winners' understand how things really work, who is 'hot' and who is 'not' and where the gang planks and backdoors are. They make peace with themselves and agree to tackle a position of careful cowardice as members of the system. Basking in the sunshine of their master's presence assures them of the reflected glory, authority and so on. Success, status, advancement and money are too valuable to be risked before those who make judgements. Rather than place all of these symbols in jeopardy these men make compromises which they think are required to hang on. Perhaps because the servant is commonly regarded as something that can be sold, in the master-servant/superior-subordinate relationship, the self contempt tends to be an essential ingredient to the extent that people don't mind getting treated disrespectfully. As the virtues of a free person are not to be found in them it is unfair to twit them with the absence of such virtues. Insults and humiliations meted out mould the characters of the people. For sheer survival and to be the 'sure winners' in a situation of loot, plunder as also anarchy toads learn to be crafty for making use of lie, selfishness and various forms of deceit/subterfuge.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.
Agreeing not to say no - Page 3 of 3
As the system itself is the best clue to peer into, the 'sure winners' understand how things really work, who is 'hot' and who is 'not' and where the gang planks and backdoors are. They make peace with themselves and agree to tackle a position of careful cowardice as members of the system. Basking in the sunshine of their master's presence assures them of the reflected glory, authority and so on. Success, status, advancement and money are too valuable to be risked before those who make judgements. Rather than place all of these symbols in jeopardy these men make compromises which they think are required to hang on. Perhaps because the servant is commonly regarded as something that can be sold, in the master-servant/superior-subordinate relationship, the self contempt tends to be an essential ingredient to the extent that people don't mind getting treated disrespectfully. As the virtues of a free person are not to be found in them it is unfair to twit them with the absence of such virtues. Insults and humiliations meted out mould the characters of the people. For sheer survival and to be the 'sure winners' in a situation of loot, plunder as also anarchy toads learn to be crafty for making use of lie, selfishness and various forms of deceit/subterfuge.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.
In the wonderland of 'sure winners' the obsession for a 'walk over' is there to be had. For being 'beaters' people combine capabilities and skills with other things--savvy people sense, an understanding how the game is played and do things they plan on doing them and for no longer than they plan on doing them. As 'faster nicks' they learn that it is not what they do and say, but how they look along the way that is going to get them to the top. While pursuing goals set for themselves, their cost calculations/perceived values of tangibles and intangibles and their performance on job and the achievements entitle them to rewards and gratitude and to be the 'hip shooters' and the 'success stories'. For they're the gladhanders, often the-old-school-I-am-glad-you-asked-me-that types, the quality of deserving well, excellence and worth is what they call 'merit'. In our world of paradoxes, where the law of jungle prevails, they're the 'star performers'. Nothing is impossible for them. They do not require academic qualifications/brilliance to reach top. For them sky is the limit.
They sacrifice and bear humiliation of sinking through the floors, and licking and throwing themselves at the feet of their masters like 'doormat'(placed near doors for wiping dirt from shoes). They do not mind helping them in household chores, arranging plumbers, gas cylinders, paying children's school fees (and carrying them to school) and at times watering flower pots, serving tea and eatables to the guests and carrying their master's brief cases, luggage and even opening their office/car doors if that means business.