Some of you who read this may agree and some of you may disagree. It's ok with me, I don't expect EVERYONE to agree since everyone is a critic, just like movies.

The human person is only flesh and bone right with nerves and a brain for a mind to think.

This being said, you are only who you are because of the outside world that has formed you into being you who are.

It is not something you probably don't want to be because if this is you, you'd probably say to yourself "Man my life sucks and I don't like where it is heading." With that being said, if you are in that circumstance, most likely your mind has adapted to the world of people ruling and living life for you however your independent mind that forms as you grow older, you know, the mind that creates opinions, likes and dislikes deep inside your brain, is another human personality rooted within your mind.

Call it the alter ego if you may. The kind of person that is really you but the ruling of the real world with your "teachers" who have made you into who you are which is not really what your inside mind says you are nor want to be but only are because of the transformation and development of being surrounded by like such people creating you into this type of person building your personality for you; the kind of people like parents who think is the right thing to do so they want you to follow into their foot steps and never want you to think for yourself because they know "everything" because they are older and claim they have been there and done that.

Once the outsiders realize this as being you, they will say that this is your official persona and have marked a label on you like a tattoo on skin; to last forever.

However my theory says that you can break out of bad habits that have been brought to you by people that have "created" you because after all, you are just a creation, like a robot programmed and files downloaded into the hard drive.

Same way, your mind is the computer and the personality is the program downloaded into your mind because you only know what you are taught, unfortunately, this teaching is poor to not be able to develop you fully.

Personality can be changed; just unlearn poor habits learnt through loved because it was unintentional, and re learn through the experts who know how to behave and speak. Delete the hold personality and re download the new personality into the mind creating a new person.

With such action, one can ultimately change into a new person "starting over" again like a 2nd chance just from where he has left off for a better future and life.

Ultimately the end goal here is to change your life....create your new person so the world doesn't have to treat you the way you don't want to be treated because you learned poor skills from your "poor teachers" (parents e.g.)

They aren't the bad guys BUT they are poor teachers undoubtedly not knowing for themselves. Principles are adopted by generations and passed on to future generations believing that this is the way of life. Until of course one person breaks the vicious cycle and starts a new chapter. In my opinion this is very common with first generation families, those that come from foreign countries and bring their culture and beliefs along with them.

Concluding my essay, for the person who has been adapted into an unpleasant being, once he is mature enough and independent to think for himself & awareness and realization occurs; you know that light bulb that "clicks" over your head, you realize that you've had enough and decide to take control of your own destiny. You devise a plan to become someone newer, someone better, breaking out of the vicious dull cycle that you live in.

It all begins with you making that first action step to change. I call this goal planning. You just have to write out what your future goals are and set deadlines for those goals; give yourself enough time to get to that goal so you can prepare and learn on a daily basis. You must be committed to it to succeed otherwise you are no serious than the Joker himself wanting to change who he is in life.

Think of all of the famous celebrities and how they became who they are. Human destiny doesn't have to be a lonesome man at a dead end job with a bossy boss and annoying co workers and strict parents. It can change if you can become goal oriented and plan your goals.

Another thing you can do is visualize into the future and picture what you want to be at that date and write down on a piece of paper what things you'd like to change about yourself and what are the steps to take action.

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