How is it possible to forgive someone after you have been hurt? There is one way that is difficult, but possible. It is thinking about the benefit of forgiving that person. Does forgiving them mean that you can continue with your relationship(s) in a healthy manner, not bringing it up later in life once, twice, or several times? Is it too painful to forgive the pain that it caused? If yes, then try to at least forgive that person in your mind so you do not dwell on the action that caused you pain. Move onto more positive things like creating new relationships with others who do not intentionally hurt you. Get that person out of your life if they knowingly and on more than one occasion have bought tears to your eyes. Recognize their destructive behavior and deal with it in the beginning before you lose any more time.

When I think about something someone has done to me that hurts, I immediately think of someone I hold near and dear to me in my heart, and our laughter and good times. To dwell is the worst solution, to move on is truly the best. Pain can most certainly never be truly forgotten, but it can be dealt with in a positive way so as not to suffer more than is really necessary.

If you have someone in your life who is constantly causing you pain, for whatever reason, move on. Find others that benefit you and make you laugh. To have relationships with people who do not consistently benefit you in one or more ways is not having a healthy relationship. I am talking about family, friends, co-workers, etc., anyone in your life that somehow find a way to make you feel like a weaker person. Relationships should be consistently positive, not only on rare occasions. Find people who are happy to be with you, not who take you down their own negative path. Surround yourself with positive people who are grateful for the little things and try to find truth and happiness the right way versus being ignorant or judgmental in their actions.

When work colleagues are an issue, deal with them head-on. Let them know you refuse to be involved in their actions and keep it professional. Note their actions in case it becomes unbearable and don't associate with them in your free time. Keep them at arms length, but no closer. Do not get yourself caught up in their web of self-destructive behavior.

Forgiveness can be seemingly impossible, but by doing it in your mind alone if nothing else, you can at least start the healing process and move onto the more brighter things in life. None of us are here long enough on Earth to justify holding onto pain for months, years, or even decades. It's time to get over it and leave your dwelling in the past. Give someone one chance, maybe even two depending on the situation, but after that, realize there is a pattern and it's time to move on.

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