There are times in our lives when we don't want to face anyone. Shyness become the barriers that most people want to avoid.This attitude is a learned behavior started at the younger age.This is the hindrance that will keep us separated from other people's presence. We cannot do things we want because we felt small when notice by others.

This personality behavior is common to those of us who don't want to communicate with people. It is hard for us to have new friends because shyness conquer our courage. We know being alone is not a good thing as it can develop into a low self-esteem feeling afraid to talk and meet people. We don't trust ourselves of our capacity to deal with them.

We are always self-conscious believing that someone is talking behind our back in private. We are always suspicious of everything because of our inferiority complex. We are too cautious to do things important to us because of the belief that we cannot do it properly and may only lead to ridicule and negative remarks we hated most.

Losing words is common when speaking to anyone and we don't even know what to do. This handicap bothers us bringing guilt to our conscience. Our body were trembling when meeting important people and very conscious how to do to be likable with our boss. Our hands are cold, sweat appearing in our face and feeling uneasy going here and there.

This personality behavior became a gravest problem to us. Even how we wanted to avoid but still it keep on damaging our resolve. It is not easy because this behavior already rooted to ourselves and it cannot immediately be undone. Maybe it needs lot of time to practice being lively and communicative.

This is the reason why some people mistaken us to be unfriendly but it is not. Our world is different from theirs. We live a life of our own.. our own alone. We are not gaining friends in our entire life. We have limited friends to those only we feel comfortable. there are some of us who don't want to get married because of this handicap. He cannot talk to someone he like expressing his feeling. He just keep it to himself.

So, to conquer our loneliness we just seat in the corner, thinking, looking outside without any direction, doing anything to feel occupied even if it is not, maybe reading books and magazine without understanding what we read, or composing a poem without knowing anything.. It is too terrible to note that we have this feeling of indifference to other people.

Other people we know advised us to change ways for the purpose of self-improvement and go deeper. We understand he is right but it is not easy. Maybe we can try. Maybe others can conquer it easily. What we are lacking is courage that we seldom use.

Maybe one important thing we have to consider is to find where our strength is. We don't have to look for our handicap instead find where we excel. If we continue this feeling of indifference we will stuck to it the rest of our lives. This feeling of weakness sometimes lead us to feel afraid losing our good judgment and losing strength to change to the better.

My close friend told me that being friendly we have to mix with other people. When they smile, smile them also. To show them that we have the capability to be with them. He said that before facing them we have to prepare and do whatever necessary to feel comfortable. We have to rehearse what we want to talk and to face them when we are ready. A constant practice even in a slow manner can give better result if we are determine to change it. Friends like them are ready to help us the best they can do to boost our self-esteem to the maximum. What they only expect us is not to feel hopeless and continue our battle against shyness that already eating ourselves completely.

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