Mr X has a failed life and can you imagine this, in spite of a successful career. One might ask why and Mr X doesn't know it for sure. He knows he is successful but, not quite happy. His friends have suddenly estranged him, people from office think he is rude and his wife says he is no more the same. He shakes his head and says this is the price of success, partial solitude, jealous colleagues and an unsatisfied wife. So, in all, does happiness walks out of the same door through which success walks in? Is the adventure at the pinnacle divorced from a grim satisfaction that brings a sweet smile on one's face and also on others' around?

This problem is associated with the male ego. Oh come on, this should be agreed upon. Men do have large ego issues which they can seldom undertsand and worst still, rarely handle. This problem usually arises when one has tasted the vaccuum of success in life. Loss of success threatens a consolidated ego and when fulfilled starts consuming our petty happinesses that we reaped out of small submissions in our daily lives. A dire want to show people , " see I am not just somebody, I matter" esp. with an aggressive force ends up people in a megalomania at times acute and so acute that one has to stop and ask oneself," where am I heading to?"



It is the sheer acuteness of the change from humble to the humbling that people close to you feel offended. And everyone thinks "yesterday the sober looking guy is today's dominating, success changes people like hell". And that is true, it is the change that is unbearable to people we most value. And the people whom this showcase is meant for will barely notice it. So, they will tell you things that cnform to your belief that you are the same guy. They get to be in your good eyes and everyone likes to be in the best visions of the successful, whether conciously or unconciously.

Solution? If you have agreed that the change has been startling, I think time is the best healer. People will learn to adapt to you even if they don't like. But, for valued relationships try to spare some stiffness and probably show it to them that you agree you had been a fool all this long. I think the best people to start with are friends. All you need to do is go and ask them if they find you aggressive. Talking will let them know that you too are aware of the awkwardliness and the change is unwanted and more over you are trying to battle it out. Now that's a nice strategy.



Maintainng a diary will always keep you grounded. A flip across the pages and you will know where your roots are. If you are not used to writing diaries, photo albums or old clips will immediately remind you of the past and you might eventually be able to see the contrasting behaviour you had been showing. A self realization is half the war won. You see, rself realization will immediately humble you ehich repeated advices will never make to.

Ignorance of what others are saying accumulates frustration and bitterness in relationships. This further leads to workaholism and life changes for the bad. So, if you just tasted the blood, I suggest spend some time with the ones who care for you and pay them back their share in your success.

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